Lately I’ve been thinking about the question “Am I enough?” This is brought on in part from preparing for our next MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) meeting next week. The topic for the meeting is “Courage to Forget Comparisons (You are Enough).
As a mommy of 4 tiny kiddos (all under 5) I look at my disaster of a house. I hear other moms talk about working and caring for their kids, leading groups and attending the YMCA every week. Taking their kids to soccer camp and school. Just listening to all they are a part of and how they “keep it together” and keep their houses clean and what not makes my head hurt. I can’t do it. I can’t do all of that and stay sane or even be fun to be around. When I do too much, I’m exhausted…and grouchy. I don’t like the words that come out of my mouth, especially toward my children.
A couple weeks ago, I had the privilege to get away for a weekend in the mountains with some other mommy friends. Late one night, we sat down and watched ”
Mom’s Night Out.” We laughed as we watched the outrageous scenario unfold as 3 moms go out on the town for a nice supper, but instead find themselves searching the city for a missing baby, and end up at the jailhouse because of miscommunication (or none at all!) As the main character, Allie, sits in the lobby of the police station talking to Bones, a tattoo artist and biker, she opens her heart to him and says “I’m just not enough!”
His response was filled with wisdom and truth. He said “You’re not enough for who? the kids, Sean (her husband)….or not enough for you? … Y’all spend so much time beating yourself up – must be exhausting. Let me tell you somethin’, Sweetheart. I doubt the good Lord made a mistake giving your kiddos the mama he did. You just be you – he’ll take care of the rest.”
You can watch the whole scene here
Wow…How often do I look at what everyone else is doing as a mom and think, “I should be able to do that!” I’ve come to realize that I can’t do everything that other moms do. If they can do it, great! But with what I hold dear, the things that are important to me as a mom, I can’t do everything else. Each of us has different strengths and weaknesses, things that we are awesome at, values we hold dear.
In our family, we value being together. For us, that involves homeschooling, family dates, and evenings at home. In order to hold to this, we can’t fill our calendar with all kinds activities. Those things are awesome, helpful, educational, and bonding, but we have chosen something different for our family. so how can I compare myself with families who are so different to begin with? I am enough!
Why? “For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.” Ephesians 2:10
We are Christ’s workmanship…His masterpiece! That makes you enough. The King of Heaven and earth calls you His handiwork! He makes you enough. That’s enough for me!
“I’m a mess, but I’m a beautiful mess. I’m His masterpiece. And that’s enough!” ~Allie, Mom’s Night Out